If you have been following this series on MARRIAGE MYTHS, then I hope to have challenged your paradigm of couple functioning when it comes to compromise, making each other happy, and unconditional love. Now we come to the fourth myth in the series.
Marital Myth #4: All you need is LOVE
This is a very romantic idea, but it actually is a dangerous way to approach a marriage.The reality is that when people operate from this philosophy, they quickly find themselves becoming frustrated as they realize that love alone is simply not enough.
There is a concept we often refer to in couple relationships known as compatibility. In the therapy room, I often hear one or both parties express that they just “don’t think they are compatible.” What couples often don’t understand is the compatibility is not something that happens naturally, but it is something that is achieved.